Alone in the universe?

By marriedlife2008

So, it’s the weekend and once again, I feel a bit hopeless and sad about my marriage.  My husband doesn’t help me around the house. Our daugther was fussy all week and there were a few nights when I was up all night with her. So today I was really tired, but I didn’t get any support from him. He actually went up to take a nap while I was downstairs feeding her. It never occurs to him, to say I’ll take care of her and you go take a nap.  I had to vacuum the floor three times today (after each meal) b/c she is at the stage where she wants to feed herself so it’s a big mess when she is finished.

We were supposed to go out today, but our plans changed b/c of the thunderstorm and he’s upset with me that I “ruined” the day.  He feels that the weekends are his time to relax – browses the net and plays video games a lot.   I had no idea that having a baby could change my life so much.  When he wants to have sex he is mister nice and very considerate – I feel like an idiot for even falling for it.

This is not what I expected when I got married. I feel like I married a completely different person that the man I’m now living with.  I’ve changed too – I know that (but I had a baby!!!) I’m now responsible for the health and well being of a small helpless child.  She has to come first – right? Am I wrong?  I don’t know anymore

Am I alone in this?

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3 Responses to “Alone in the universe?”

  1. "Jim" Says:

    You’re not alone. I’ve been married 16 years & I get to go home to a wife that battles major depression but won’t get treatment. Romance goes away with time when you are constantly on the defensive & never know what to expect….

  2. salma Says:

    hi. i think im at the EXACT same stage. my daughter mite even b the same age. so WHAT’s the SOLUTION? how do u get men to understand: WE NEED A VACATION TOO! its ur time to take care of the KID!

  3. marriedlife2008 Says:

    Hi Salma,
    Right now, I’m kind of trying to ignore my husband when he starts being an idiot… I’m doing personal counselling for myself which helps and I’m also going to support groups with other moms. It put things into perspective a bit to know I’m not the only one – so I would definately recommend a support group from moms in your area.

    I’m hoping that my husband will come around, but right now I’m trying to focus my energy on my daughter.

    What’s working for you?

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